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  • is the self-image which tries to manage our thoughts, feelings, and actions 
  • builds up a strong self-identity in the first half of life 
  • is gradually transformed by grace when it is surrendered to God
  • is gradually reduced to zero in the second half of life or in the dying process 
  • is based on survival and security, affection and esteem, and power and control needs 
  • will try to direct or at least influence our prayer and give unrealistic expectations about the spiritual life 

  • BP: 89

If we pray for an experience of God which is a product of ego, then we will surely end with only ego. Ego will often try to direct our prayer life.

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The ego is motivated by the false self and its self-centered desires. It is clever and can hide behind a variety of religious facades. The spiritual journey is designed to remove these illusions.

The ego is not devout, but proposes unrealistic expectations about our spiritual life. Jesus on the cross invites us to let go of our false self and ego identity. The True Self is made in the image of God and transforms the ego’s selfishness into pure love (agape).


 Reflection: Listening

Ego is motivated by the false self and self-centered desires.

Reflection: Reflecting

How much does ego direct your prayer? How is the True Self different from ego? How is your ego being transformed?

Reflection: Responding

Recognize unrealistic assumptions and expectations and their source in the ego. Understand how a strong ego might advance and might deter your spiritual growth.